Are you a Victim at Work? -- Twelve-Item Test You will never win if you have to “prove” that you are the winner. What’s important is: you must be quietly effective in your life pursuits. Your answers to the items below will indicate how quietly effective you feel you are now. Yes No ___ ___ 1. Do you get upset when you can’t get a point across to other people? ___ ___ 2. Do you have to announce your accomplishments to others? ___ ___ 3. Do you have to tell others whenever you’ve defeated someone or something? ___ ___ 4. Do you find yourself easily offended by other people’s behavior? or language? ___ ___ 5. Do you have difficulty lying, even when it would be more sensible and practical to do so? ___ ___ 6. Is it hard for you to assert your own needs for privacy without feeling guilty? ___ ___ 7. Do you find yourself being dragged down by the sour moods of other people? ___ ___ 8. Do you find yourself saying or thinking, “He/she doesn’t understand me,” a lot? ___ ___ 9. Do you feel that suffering is natural and that you are supposed to suffer on this earth? ___ ___ 10. Do you find it difficult to walk away from people you find annoying, such as drunks or fast-talkers? ___ ___ 11. Do you explain yourself a lot and resent having to do it? ___ ___ 12. Do you spend a lot of time analyzing your relationships with your friends and relatives? “Yes” responses indicate areas of victimization you might work on eliminating. If you find you are explaining yourself to others and trying to make them understand you all the time, or if you are always trying to prove your worth to people through your behavior and your words--then you are a victim and will wind up sabotaging yourself.

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